Change Your Public Speaking Reaction

Many people dislike public speaking, giving a presentation at work can reduce some of us to tears or make us feel like we just can’t breathe.

If you are reading this now, then you probably know the signs all too well: you have been asked to give a talk .. what happens……

Panic

• Brain Meltdown
• Sweats
• Blushing
• Heart Palpitations
• Voice Cracks Up
• Body Starts to Shake

I even know someone who was asked to do just a five minute presentation at work and this triggered such a massive anxiety attack within him that he ended up in hospital recovering from a series of mini-heart attacks.

Feeling afraid of being in the spotlight is no minor stumbling block in life, especially when your career or your business is at stake.

Being able to be confident when all eyes are upon you is something that I am really passionate about as a heart-centred entrepreneur.

It Is So Important To Be Brave In The Spotlight

Be Brave In The Spotlight

Because this is your time, your time to show how amazing you are, how amazing what you do is, how amazing what you offer is.

I know that speaking to a strange audience could be your downfall, that fear can really prevent your business/career/life from bounding forward.

If you are asking people to have confidence in you and your abilities, then you really need to be able to stand up and sell yourself … but you know this already right?  And let me guess, fear just doesn’t listen to that rational voice.

So here is what I am offering you:

Public Speaking? My Pleasure!

Stage One

Half Day Transformation Session:

You Can Do It

During this time we will define and recognise those barriers that are holding you back, whether they are physiological symptoms or powerful thoughts of fear and failure.

All those barriers, whatever they are, exist because your brain believes that it needs to protect you, that putting you out there for all to see is a danger that you need protecting from.

We will simply move that misplaced protection reaction to somewhere more appropriate.

Instead we will fill your body, brain and mind with that vision of how you want to be:

You have a passion for what you do; let’s show that to the world:

We will show your brain, body and mind that vision of standing in front of a mix of people, confidently, eloquently speaking, passionately connecting with your audience of 1 to 1000! … that vision can be real and it can be real straight away.

This session will be a one-to-one transformational experience that will be the gentlest, easiest change you have created in yourself.

Stage Two (Date to be confirmed)

The Dry Run.

I am only offering stage one to 9 other people, people who like you are ready to ditch that fear effect from their world.

Stage Two is another half day session, but this is a group experience.

Together we will explore presenting styles and tips that are right for you.

We will continue the transformation that you created from Stage One, with some group relaxation.

Relax with others when watched

This relaxation technique is one that you will then learn how to replicate yourself at home.

So that whenever and wherever you are asked to do a talk, you can prepare your body, brain and mind for that event in a relaxed and calm way.

Then the Fun bit:

Yes I know it won’t seem like fun now, but after you have consolidated all the fabulous work from Stage One and Two you will have the opportunity to present to the group.

Proving that you can do public speaking or presenting in style, but  in a very safe environment first, before you head out and shine to the world.

We will also do a practice of a 60 second elevator speech, just as you would at any other networking event; but this time you will be in control, confident and dare I say it, even enjoying talking about you and what you do!

One Confident Client

Limited Time Offer

This programme is a very exclusive package that I am currently only planning to run this month of spring.
It is only available for a maximum of 10 people and I want You to be one of those 10.

What does your red carpet need to be wonderful?

• Two half day transformation experiences.
• Empowering relaxation CD
• Presentation tips
• Insight into your best speaking style.
• Two follow-up mini sessions valid for six months.

But most importantly with this new ability you will be able to take your career/business/life to a whole new level of success.

Open up new opportunities and really impress people with your abilities.

It’s going to be amazing.

If you are intrigued, tempted but have questions, or if you think it might be for you but you aren’t really sure, then give me a call or drop me and email.  I would love to hear from you.

Do email me discover@joanneburrell.com  or call me on 07790035963.

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Today I thought I would talk about the trials and tribulations of friendships and unwittingly being taken advantage of.

It can be hard sometimes, we all want to believe the best in people, to be able to help those around us. We would give our energy and time often to the detriment of our own well being.

In this ying and yang world, just as there are people who will bring benefit and joy into our lives, there are also those who will cause discomfort and antagonism. That is simply the way of the world.

It’s not a case of good or bad, it is a case of compatability

Friendship in balance

One of the important lessons to learn in life is when to recognise that some people just are not any good for us.
This doesn’t make them bad people, it just means that because of who they are; at that point in time in their life, their sense of self will be one that drains energy from other people.

So my message to you is that it is okay not to have some people in your life.
Perhaps there is someone who makes you groan inside at the thought of seeing them?
Someone who you have the same conversation with again and again and they do nothing about it who frustrates you well:

It’s okay to let those people go. It just means that your mental energies are not compatible. Change the nature of your friendship or relationship to take account those differing energies.

Angelsword to discern the truth

Angel Sword is an essence that works more with our spiritual body than our mental, physical or emotional bodies.

Angelsword

One of its key benefits is being able to cut through to the truth of the matter.

It clears and removes confusion and misinformation and allows us to perceive with our heart and our inner knowledge.

What changes when you let go of people who don’t serve you?

Once you start letting go of the people who are energy drains on your life, you will be amazed how your life starts to shift. You will attract people who are better suited to you, your energies, your life.

As an example of what is truth for you do you read the name of the flower as Angel-Sword or Angels-Word? Each version is good and reveals a different aspect of what you might need from this essence.

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When you suffer from a chronic illness or pain it can feel like it controls you, not the other way around.

If you live with someone who has pain sometimes you don’t know the best ways to support them:

I will share with you ways in which you both can use relaxation and other alternative techniques to relieve and manage pain in a way that medication can’t achieve.

The Workshops

Join me for two afternoons to learn a new pain management method which has no side effects.

You will learn:

Relaxation Methods

When your body is calm and relaxed pain is more manageable. Plus your recovery time from attacks of chronic or actute pain will be much quicker. Plus with the right amount of practice creating a state of deep relaxation you can take your mind to a place where pain doesn’t exist at all.

• Your carer can learn these relaxation methods to use with you.  This is a really key way in which he or she can help you manage your pain in a very real proactive way.

• You can learn to use relaxation yourself to ease any stress from triggering more pain.

Alternative Techniques

Discover how Meridian Energy and Flower Essences can be used to support living with pain.

When and Where

The Hayloft, Emsworth, West Sussex
Saturday 28th April 2012 and Saturday 19th May 2012 1.30 pm – 4.30 pm.
£120 per person inclusive.  If you can only attend one date, do get in touch.

For questions please contact me discover@joanneburrell.com  or call me on 07790035963.

Or you can reserve your place by paying a deposit now:

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Do you suffer from endometriosis or adenomyosis? 

Then this series of blogs is my way of reaching out to you. To share the experiences that I have had of all sorts of things that helped me cope, power through and in reality survive the crippling pain which endo puts us through.

Hypnotherapy and Pain Management

This is my favourite tip as might be expected considering I am now a trained hypnotherapist.

Without doubt this has been one of the biggest life savers; quite literally saving me from suicide when the pain was so bad, but also saving my sanity.

Working with hypnosis gave me back my sense of CONTROL, that I could master this, cope with it, live with it, ignore it.

Self-Hypnosis is the Best Painkiller……. 

……… I have ever experienced.

On the occasions when the pain was so bad I couldn’t do self hypnosis myself than I would put my hypnosis cd on repeat and listen to it for hours.

In a hazy non world where nothing existed.

This is the happy trick of self hypnosis, it puts a kind of barrier between you and the pain, the pain is still there, but you can’t feel it.

So okay this isn’t the kind of painkiller where you can carry on with the day to day. This is the kind of painkiller that stops you being in hours of crippling pain. It is much more copeable to spend hours in a deeply relaxed state.

The other benefit is from a recovery point of view.  You know how you feel totally washed out after a major attack.  It can take a couple of days to recover.  When you have spent the time in a relaxed state, the recovery time is so much quicker.

Hypnosis for Pain Management

And it’s not just good for taking our mind away from bodies during those really bad attacks. It is also about lessening pain on a day to day basis.

When you work with your body and mind using hypnosis,  you start to be aware of how the brain can control sensations in the body.

You learn ways to lessen the pain messages that are being sent to the brain.   To switch them off, turn them down, turn them into a different sensation.  All of this is possible using hypnosis.

If you are interested in learning more about this (and you aren’t local to my practice) then I would suggest looking for Hypnotherapists who have an interest in women’s issues or are trained in Hypno-birthing, as this is also a speciality that deals with pain management.

If you are local to me, do drop me an email and I will send you details of my next pain management workshop and we can talk about how me ande my hypnosis can help .
do email me discover@joanneburrell.com  or call me on 07790035963.

My Stuff

My story is I’m sure the same as many of you. My pain started from at least 14, diagnosed when I was 18. Laperoscopy’s throughout the years, culminting in a diagnosis of adenomyosis at 35 and a hysterectomy. Nearly 4 years (delightful pain free years but very tough on the emotions) on I am back on the meds and expecting removal of my ovaries this year.

Now, yes I have had a horrific time, there have been moments of being suicidal from the pain. However I know that I have been relatively lucky in many ways, and I’m sure that alot of this is because of the coping techniques that I discovered. I am now coping with the endo on my bowels, the thought of another operation (and I react violently to anaesthetic) and that sinking feeling of despair. However I know I can cope and be strong and brave and leap this hurdle with a gentle calm

The Disclaimer

Because I don’t want to get my wrist slapped by any medical bodies, suport groups or indeed my own professional bodies; let me make this next bit crystal clear:

All of the information is based on my personal experience and is not an attempt or a promise at a cure.
My hope is that this blog will give other women a short cut, some support and maybe find something new to try instead of always hearing ” there is nothing we can do”.

Are you aware of how many instructions that you give your brain everyday? Just by Thinking??

• “I can’t do that”
• “It always goes wrong”
• “That is my favourite”
• “I find that hard”

What are you telling your brain?

Did you know that your brain really does pay attention to every instruction you ever make.

If you say “I am clumsy” it is going to let your body walk into that desk, or drop that bottle” because that is what you have told it to do.

So you give your brain instructional thoughts everyday, or you make affirmations everyday. That is really all an affirmation is. Your thought.

How often do you make good ones, powerful ones, ones that will improve your life.

If you would like to start, If you are thinking to yourself, that is really interesting then come along to my workshop.

Affirmations don’t work

Many people try using affirmations but ‘give-up’ on them because they don’t seem to be working.

This is because language can be trickey and there is a definite style of thought that the brain responds to best.

During the afternoon you will master the golden rules which will take your affirmations from wishy washy things to Personal Power Statements.

Power Statements are what you use when:

• You are wanting to embrace a change in your life.
• You need abit of strength and support to ‘get through’.
• You just want to feel more in control, or happier, or more comfortable about a situation.

Perhaps you are frustrated at the time it takes to move house, or are struggling with a work situation that you can’t change. Perhaps you need to find some patience, some confidence, some calm.

In other words all the usual challenges that life throws at us.

Of course, in my unique style whereby I avoid tense, harsh, loud techniques; I will be using the calming state of relaxation to enable you to fully assimilate those learnings.

But there is more:

Often affirmations are blocked because of inner fears, worries, frustrations.  Which is why affirmations can take so long to work, they have to errode all those feelings away.

By using relaxation and empowerment techniques we can gently dissolve some of those blockages during the afternoon.

So that your Personal Power Statements can by flying into your brain and those easy life shifts will happen without any hard effort on your part.

So when and where I hear you cry?

The Next Affirmation and Relaxation Workshop will be:

Friday 23rd March 2012 13:30 to 16:00 ~ The Hayloft, Emsworth, West Sussex.

You will leave with:

• Your Personal Power Statment
• The ability to create your own workable power statements.
• A relaxation cd
• An Australian Bush Flower Essence; personalised to you.

Plus – because you have been so kind to read this blog I am offering you a £20 discount if you book before Wednesday 21st March.

Any questions – do email me discover@joanneburrell.com  or call me on 07790035963.

Then this series of blogs is my way of reaching out to you. To share the experiences that I have had of all sorts of things that helped me cope, power through and in reality survive the crippling pain which endo puts us through.

Homeopathy

I’m not going to say that Homeopathy is a cure however I would say that is bloody worth a shot.
For my experience I worked with a Homeopath when I was 22.

I had a whole two years pain free.
Following on from that I had two permanent benefits.

No More Flooding Ever and a two day cycle each and every month.

The Placebo Effect

Even if you don’t believe in tiny tablets being able to make any difference to you, give it a try because you know what THE PLACEBO effect has a very real effect on our body.

In a recent study, even when the participants KNEW that they were being given a placebo, their symptoms still improved.

Why Does It Work?

I have no idea, I’m not sure anyone can prove why it works, and when it works.

My money is on a chemical reaction in the brain to the genetic information contained the remedy.

I think it acts like a kind of trigger to get the brain to release different hormones, chemicals etc so that the body starts to respond in a different way.

Homeopathy and Pain Killers

There is a great homeopathic pain killer which I found worked for me on many occasions for the chronic pain.
Mag Phos:

Take two tabs, disolve in warm water and sip.

This pain killer is for when you are in chronic pain, so tell someone else what they need to do so you don’t have to try and move.
I didn’t find it as effective at the beginning, or when the pain was building. But when I was stuck in the middle of that ball of agony. This stuff was good!!

Side Effects

That is the brilliant thing, you can take this without worrying about side effects, or interferring with other medication or anything like that.

Just remember don’t touch it with your fingers or the remedy comes off onto your skin and doesn’t do any good there.

If you have any other experiences with homeopathy, please do share with me.

The Next Tip will be my Favourite – Hypnotherapy.

My Stuff

My story is I’m sure the same as many of you. My pain started from at least 14, diagnosed when I was 18. Laperoscopy’s throughout the years, culminting in a diagnosis of adenomyosis at 35 and a hysterectomy. Nearly 4 years (delightful pain free years but very tough on the emotions) on I am back on the meds and expecting removal of my ovaries this year.

Now, yes I have had a horrific time, there have been moments of being suicidal from the pain. However I know that I have been relatively lucky in many ways, and I’m sure that alot of this is because of the coping techniques that I discovered. I am now coping with the endo on my bowels, the thought of another operation (and I react violently to anaesthetic) and that sinking feeling of despair. However I know I can cope and be strong and brave and leap this hurdle with a gentle calm

The Disclaimer

Because I don’t want to get my wrist slapped by any medical bodies, suport groups or indeed my own professional bodies; let me make this next bit crystal clear:

All of the information is based on my personal experience and is not an attempt or a promise at a cure.
My hope is that this blog will give other women a short cut, some support and maybe find something new to try instead of always hearing ” there is nothing we can do”.

Then this series of blogs is my way of reaching out to you. To share the experiences that I have had of all sorts of things that helped me cope, power through and in reality survive the crippling pain which endo puts us through.

My Stuff

My story is I’m sure the same as many of you. My pain started from at least 14, diagnosed when I was 18 thanks to the persistence of my mum. Laperoscopy’s throughout the years, culminting in a diagnosis of adenomyosis at 35 and a hysterectomy. Nearly 4 years (delightful pain free years but very tough on the emotions) on I am back on the meds and expecting removal of my ovaries this year.

Now, yes I have had a horrific time, there have been moments of being suicidal from the pain. However I know that I have been relatively lucky in many ways, and I’m sure that alot of this is because of the coping techniques that I discovered. I am now coping with the endo on my bowels, the thought of another operation (and I react violently to anaesthetic) and that sinking feeling of despair. However I know I can cope and be strong and brave and leap this hurdle with a gentle calm

The Disclaimer

Because I don’t want to get my wrist slapped by any medical bodies, suport groups or indeed my own professional bodies; let me make this next bit crystal clear:

All of the information is based on my personal experience and is not an attempt or a promise at a cure.
My hope is that this blog will give other women a short cut, some support and maybe find something new to try instead of always hearing ” there is nothing we can do”.

Knowledge is Power

There is plenty of information out there for endometriosis, but very very little on adenomyosis. It is worth reading the material, the more you understand the more ‘in control’ you will feel. Take the time to find out exactly what is happening to your body.

Diet

Personally I recommend this book which helped me enormously. There are practical guidelines on diet. I don’t know why modern medicine never looks at the impact the kind of food we put into body has on our medical conditions! To me there is an obvious correlation. Click to Amazon to buy or read more

Get this book but the key points are, avoid dairy, avoid wheat and eat an alkaline based diet. The common sense point is that if you put rubbish into your body (fast food, ready prepared foods etc) then the harder your body has to work to process it. Using up valuable energy that you need to cope with the endo.

I never found following this diet would stop my pain, but the pain certainly increased when I wasn’t following the diet. Additionally following this diet helped with that other endo symptom, FATIGUE. Having a diet that is free of processed foods, rich in vegies and fruit, does nourish. We endo sufferers need all the nourishment that we can get.

 So this may be the magical ingredient that will work for you.

Have you found any results from changing your diet?

Please do share your tips on diet here too.

The Next Tip will be my favourite. The use of Hypnosis for pain management.

So it took me a while to work out how I could include that ethos in my Valentines promotion, and I am so happy with what I came up with.

Relaxation is one of the best things that we can do for our body, our brain and our minds.

My personal relaxation sessions allow your body to deeply relax and allow your mind to truly switch off.

Just imagine what it would be like if you could actually switch your mind off for a while, stop all those incessant worrying thoughts that go around and around and around.

But there is more:

Using deep relaxation we will also include some empowering thoughts, and a meditative type exercise which is designed to give you some inner strength and protection.

From just one session you can get some easy gentle shifts in your brain.

It’s quite simple, when you stop, really stop for a while; it clears out confusing pathways to your brain

which allows:

• answers to come easily
• to feel at ease
• become in flow
• access your creative brain

Plus for those of you who are intrigued by the hippy side of things, from the Australian Bush Flower Essences a free personal remedy for you to take away if you wish to keep the good shifts going for longer.

So you can buy a relaxation session for someone special in your life and keep the free one for yourself

…..

Or buy yourself the deal and keep the free one for you.

I am only offering 4 of these deals and they must be booked by the end of February. But you can experience the relaxation experience anytime in the next three months.

Guess What – No-one copes

It’s true, everyone puts on a smiling face and then goes home and falls apart.

Everyone has knee-jerk reactions to things.

Reactions which they regret later.

Reactions which deep down we know is based on other things, and not really at the matter at hand.

We all have these demons inside which are from learned or past experiences which we allow to rule our life in the here and now.

It doesn’t have to be that way

One of the most frustrating things I find talking to friends, loved ones, or people I have just met is this idea that if you “go and see a professional” that you have in some way failed.

When your boiler breaks down – you get in a plumber

When your car breaks down – you go see a mechanic

Because you don’t have the working knowledge of the parts and how they work together to go and fix it.

Yet when our emotions break down, we are supposed to just struggle along silently. Making the same mistakes with nothing changing or getting better

and why do we do this?

Because society has this misguided concept that if you seek professional help to deal with a trauma (however large or small) that we have in some Failed. Or that we are Broken. Or that we are really Bad.

Seeking professional help, be it counsellor, coach, therapist, reiki healer, – whomever or whatever their credentials is the smart intelligent move.

What it does is give you TOOLS, INFORMATION, UNDERSTANDING.

So those knee jerk reactions are not quite so damaging, so those bad thoughts are put in their place, so you can see the big picture clearly and in focus, not all blurred by events which have no bearing on the hear and now.

If more people took the courage to take their emotional baggage to a professional to clear out, how much of a happier world would we live in? Oh so much happier.

It is a simple rule, if you don’t have the tools to fix a problem yourself, then find someone who has.

It is only natural, when we are children, we tend to compare over things like toys, or things we are allowed to do…..or not do.

My car is better than your car

So this can go on as adults

However what is that comparison really about?

Often it is “I’m not as good”. “They are better than me”.

The end result

Which of course leads to the inevitable “what’s the point in even trying”.

How many missed opportunities have you had because you lost faith in yourself with this perception that someone else was better than you.

Okay there are some cases when this might be true, a trained operatic singer for example will be able to sing figaro better than the rest of us…..
generally though there is no better than………

There is only different than.

It really is that simple. The differences that makes up the person who is YOU will attract certain people, the differences that makes up someone else will attract others.

So next time you catch yourself comparing yourself to others remember this.

Charlie Chaplin once came third in a Charlie Chaplin look-a-like contest!